Friday, October 17, 2008
SkyQuestCom's Success Blog: How to Keep the Spark in Your Relationship
In "Keeping the Spark in Your Relationship", Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus best-selling author John Gray shares with you proven tips to keep your relationship sizzling. Discover the secrets on how to communicate effectively with your partner and keep a long, passionate relationship.
In this excerpt from John Gray's full-length video, he shares the 5 Stages of Dating that define the ups and downs that all relationships encounter.
These 5 stages are especially helpful for women in new relationships who are confused by the enthusiasm of a man and then baffled when his interest declines. They're helpful for a man who is interested in a woman and then lost whenever she suddenly needs to think about things.
Attraction - Couples enter the world of attraction starting from the beginning. It's normal that you feel attracted to each other, that you feel an incredible chemistry that makes you say "Wow, this is great! This is wonderful!" This is a time of getting acquainted, and exploring their initial chemistry.
Uncertainty - Once a person begins to explore the idea of becoming committed to the person they are dating, they naturally enter the second stage of dating- uncertainty. Uncertainty can feel quite scary to some people but it's the stage where you consider committing to the person you're dating. They wonder what if they fall out of love because once you get really excited and turned on by someone after a period of time, doubts come out. For example, men ask themselves if they love the women they're dating. And women doubt whether the men they're dating love them.
Exclusivity - If there is a desire to commit, then couples naturally progress to the third stage of dating- exclusivity. This is the stage where couples build the foundation for their relationships. Couples begin to learn about their true selves because they are finally able to relax and know they are committed. At this stage, attraction will "ding-dong" between "greater" and "lesser".
Intimacy - As a couple works through this stage, they will ultimately begin to consider their deeper feelings of love. As these feelings grow, the couple will naturally progress into the fourth stage of dating - intimacy . This is a fun and enlightening stage and where you begin to explore your physical relationship in greater depth.
Engagement - Finally, if you're in love and ready for marriage you enter the fifth stage of dating - engagement. Here you begin exploring all of the wonders that being engaged and entering a married relationship can bring.
What you'll discover in "Keeping the Spark in the Relationship"
- How to overcome the differences between men and women
- How to maintain long and passionate relationship
- How to adapt to the changes in your relationship as a result of economic changes
- Fundamentals in selecting a life-long partner
- The easiest way to calm an angry partner down
- And more!
You can learn from the full-length video of "Keeping the Spark in the Relationship" and access over 200 online seminars of the world's best speakers and success coaches at http://www.SkyQuestCom.com
To watch a video clip of John Gray's video seminar, just follow these simple steps:
1. Go to http://www.skyquestcom.com/
2. Move your mouse over "Watch our featured seminars" on the left menu
3. On the Free Demos list, locate "Lifestyle" and click "View Demo"
4. Locate "Keeping the Spark in the Relationship" and click "Product Demo"
SkyQuestCom offers online video seminars of the world's best personal development experts and business gurus that will change your life! Now you can be personally coached by world famous speakers in your own home, including Anthony Robbins (Unleash The Power Within), Robert Kiyosaki (Rich Dad, Poor Dad), Brian Tracy (The Psychology of Selling), T. Harv Eker (Secrets of the Millionaire Mind), John Gray (Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus), Jay Abraham (Getting Everything You Can Out of All You've Got), Bill Gates, Warren Buffett and many more.
Labels: communication skills, John Gray, men are from mars, relationship advice, relationships, SkyQuestCom, Success Blog, women are from venus
Thursday, October 09, 2008
SkyQuestCom's Success Blog: Interview with Allan Pease - How to Read Anyone
Suspect someone is lying to you? Wouldn't it be great to read the other side's mind when you're negotiating a business deal?
It is a scientific fact that people's gestures give away their true intentions. Yet many of us don't know how to read body language and don't realise how our own physical movements speak to others.
Most people would love to read people's minds and body language, and thanks to Mr. "Body Language" Allan Pease, now you can! He'll share techniques for reading body language signals to give you confidence and control in any face-to-face encounter.
(The following conversation is an excerpt from our video interview.)
SKYQUESTCOM: Today we're privileged to have Allan Pease. Allan, you're famous for your series on body language. How did you get started in this area and why?
ALLAN: Well it started for me back in the late 1960's teaching salesmen how to work things out when you're face to face with someone - whether they're with you or against you. Whether they're likely to say "yes" or "no". And observing the gestures and movements they had made that were relative to a positive decision versus a negative one.
And back in the early 1970's, this became a training course on a brand new cassette medium called "audio cassette" - a little cassette tape that nobody had. We used to buy a 6-pack of that, with a cassette player because nobody had a cassette player. And that became a 16-mm set of training films in 1972, which is one of the first on 16-mm. And in 1976, it became a book called Body Language, which then went #1 worldwide and continued to be a best-seller for 31 years.
SKYQUESTCOM: What is the appeal of Body Language?
ALLAN: The appeal of Body Language in the book on the series and everything connected with it is simply that everybody likes to be able to work out what the other person is thinking - "How am I coming across with others?", "Do they like me?", "Are they with me?", "Are they against me?", "Are they going to say 'yes'?", "Are they going to say 'no'?"
Of course, in business, that is a critical skill to be able to have. If you can do this in business, you'll do very well! Which is why women are so successful at it because they're good at it. And the other aspect, of course, is your social life. If you can work out with someone who likes you in your social life, you'll save a lot of time.
SKYQUESTCOM: What is something about yourself in your background that surprises people when they find out?
ALLAN: Well, I think the most unusual thing about me and my background is - because I am one of the world's biggest-selling authors on Psychology. They expect that I'm a Psychologist. In fact, I'm not. My training is in Finance and teaching negotiators how to sell Finance. Which is where the body language came from.
I've always had a dramatically keen interest in human behavior, why we do things we do. I am just fascinated with everything about human beings. I am fascinated by that. And that's led me to nearly 40 years now to study everything about humans. I'm trying to work out where its history might be, where its origin is and importantly to develop strategies and techniques that you can use to win people over and do better with others in your personal and social life.
What you’ll discover in the full-length video of "How to Read Anyone":
- Techniques for reading body language signals such as how handshakes are used to gain control
- How to tell without a doubt that somebody is lying to you
- Common male and female courtship gestures and signals
- How to break the masks of “professional actors”
- How to use non-verbal cues and signals to communicate more effectively and get the success you want
- And much more!
You can learn from the full-length video of "How to Read Anyone" and access over 200 online seminars of the world's best speakers and success coaches at http://www.SkyQuestCom.com
To watch a video clip of Allan Pease's seminar, just follow these simple steps:
1. Go to http://www.skyquestcom.com/
2. Move your mouse over "Watch our featured seminars" on the left menu
3. On the Free Demos list, locate "Lifestyle" and click "View Demo"
4. Locate "Interview with 'Mr Body Language Allan Pease: How to Read Anyone" and click "Product Demo"
SkyQuestCom offers online video seminars of the world's best personal development experts and business gurus that will change your life! Now you can be personally coached by world famous speakers in your own home, including Anthony Robbins (Unleash The Power Within), Robert Kiyosaki (Rich Dad, Poor Dad), Brian Tracy (The Psychology of Selling), T. Harv Eker (Secrets of the Millionaire Mind), John Gray (Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus), Jay Abraham (Getting Everything You Can Out of All You've Got), Bill Gates, Warren Buffett and many more.
Labels: Allan Pease, allan pease videos, body language, How to read anyone, how to read body language, Personal Growth, relationship advice, relationships, Success, success tips
Monday, January 07, 2008
SkyQuestCom's Success Blog: Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
His approach is to identify the differences that exist for many people. They don't show up for everybody but they show up for many people . When that happens, John prefers a positive method of interpreting them so that the people involved don't feel threatened by them.
He believes that there is an inherent gender difference that is born into everyone. He calls it "a function of testosterone", which can be measured in people's physiology. The bottom line is that this is what humans are born into- muscles and testosterone that go together and testosterone goes together with a whole set of attitudes. It also goes together with a whole set of stress reactions and determines how people cope with stress.
John explains that the basic bottom line of relationships is that people deal with conflict and stress differently. For example, women have different hormones that affect their experience of stress, their experience of intimacy, and their experience of purpose in life.
Emotional Differences Between Men and Women
The main difference between men and women is that women explore issues in greater detail before forming an opinion. Men form opinions immediately and therefore women assume men are narrow-minded or rigid, when in actual fact, they're not. John also explains that they'll form an opinion very quickly but also be able to quickly change that opinion if given new information. So that's another way men and women process information differently.
Men tend to make snap judgments and they'll change them just as quickly. In comparison, a woman tend to take a longer time to form her opinion and once it's formed, it tends to be more rigid, more stable and based upon a lot more information. So a man might be thinking in his marriage, "I want a divorce." And the next day he will change his mind. But when a woman says she wants a divorce, it's generally based on years of build-up and usually she won't change her mind right away.
How to Deal With Conflicts
When in conflict, John suggests to solve the problem and avoid it in the future. What women want is someone who will empathize with her point of view, trusting and respecting that she can it through on her own. This creates lots of problems. The same principle applies for men. They are going to have to learn a lot of things on their own and if women keep telling them what to do. Men will just resist hearing that message.
This is where conflicts often develop, says John. Men tend to be overly analytical in trying to solve problems and women tend to offer unsolicited advice to men. What both have to do is to have a greater respect for each other to be able to listen to each other.
How to Enjoy Freedom While Being in a Relationship
John advocates the need to have separate time even when one is in a happy, committed relationship. Otherwise, a relationship won't be healthy. He stresses that men need time to be with their make friends, shooting pool or going to the movies or doing what they like to do. That is very healthy and if they don't do it, it will threaten their romantic relationship with their female partners. Women have to realize that. If women want their male partners to be passionately attracted to them, they need to let the men pull away. This will stimulate their testosterone, thereby missing their female partners. And this, John says, is the key to bring good energy back to a relationship.
To watch a video clip of John Gray's relationship seminars, please visit http://www.SkyQuestCom.com/learning
Labels: John Gray, relationships
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